The proper use of evolutionary psychology in the gender wars is to facilitate a truce. If you have equipped yourself with the logic in order to support the gender or political side you’re identified with in its grievances against another, you’re doing it wrong. Insofar as it’s good science, evolutionary psychology is value-neutral; you can use it for good or bad. As a tool for progress and civilization, it can inspire us to suspend judgment about other people, to respect that their needs may not be quite the same as our own, and to use that space of doubt to be compassionate. Again, this is why I like Daniel Copeland’s essays on evolutionary psychology. He seems to get it.